“You must keep sending work out; you must never let a manuscript do nothing but eat its head off in a drawer. You send that work out again and again, while you’re working on another one. If you have talent, you will receive some measure of success – but only if you persist.”
In all my years of working in childcare, I have always been fascinated and puzzled at the initial baldness of some (actually quite a good number) white babies and how this ‘baldness’ persists for months after they are born while a lot of black babies come in with a full (or almost full) head of hair. I find this truly puzzling considering that a few months down the line, we all know whose hair is going to be longer.
With only a few days to my expected due date (and the infamous life-changing experience the arrival of the baby would bring), I have found myself thinking a lot about baby hair. There’s not a lot I can seem to focus on these days aside from getting ready for birthing… and eating (the cravings I get at night are almost diabolical I tell you).
I have never really been a fan of new year resolutions, however, prior to the start of the new year, I decided to make an exception and make a few commitments which include;
1. Reading my bible every day with the aid of a Bible in a year reading plan
2. Commit to sending out a regular weekly blog post.
It’s only the third week in January and both ‘commitments’ already have suffered some form of neglect or forgetfulness!
Which brings me back to babies and their hair (please hear a preggers Sista out)
Living and working in the UK, I have seen white babies with practically no hair (or with hairs you can hardly see) and all their mothers have to go on is faith and probably a pink hairband to convince the world of their sex.
“Again I looked throughout the earth and saw that the swiftest person does not always win the race, nor the strongest man the battle, and that wise men are often poor, and skillful men are not necessarily famous; but it is all by chance, by happening to be at the right place at the right time”
(From The Bible, book of Ecclesiastes 9 verse 11)
However, once that mane starts to grow and fill out (someone play me that holy organ sound), it needs no telling and it’s like second nature to their development while the black baby then embarks on the journey to the promised land of beautiful, dynamic and manageable afro hair with the accompanying aids of aunty shea Moisture, uncle Cantu, sister as-i-am, brother wide tooth comb, all those little nieces and nephews of oils running around, grandpa spray bottle, to mention but a few. This reminds me of Terah (Abraham’s father from the Bible) leaving for Canaan with his entire family.
Afro hair ain’t playing!
In case someone missed it, the morale I am trying to get at here isn’t white versus black hair. Both can be beautiful when properly cared for and both can equally be breathtakingly horrendous looking if left unkept (even bald people take care of their hair…or is it head? I’m not sure).
The point here is to start and continue. Like me, you may have missed a few days of your Bible reading plan and only managed to put out your regular weekly blog post in the 3rd week of January and chances are you will still miss some more deadlines, get tired and go off track, get distracted or just not see any results at first (like the white baby).
Change and progress, however, begins with a little decision to start something and keep at it (whatever IT is) as best and as often as you possibly can. We have a saying in Nigeria; “small, small beans wey dey for fire go don“. For those who are not skilled in Nigerian pidgin, let me break it down cause choosing a regular quote about persistence off the internet would be a great injustice.
Now cooking beans in Nigeria can take an awfully long time (don’t ask me why). It just does. However, no matter how much of your patience it tries, it still gets cooked and eaten at the end of the day (Praise God!)
Bottom line, this year, make a commitment to TRY and keep TRYING.
You just might surprise yourself.
Happy New Year!